Authenticity is a goal in itself, and a worthy one. Seeking to be more truly yourself regardless of who you are sitting next to at dinner will help you feel more solid, more centered, and more peaceful. How do you get there? Here are three simple steps you can use this season.

As finding an affordable therapist becomes increasingly difficult, learning how to heal ourselves with solo work and by leaning on our people becomes even more important. In this post, I will give you a brief introduction to Internal Family Systems and a beginner’s guide for how to do parts work on your own.

Often, a parent’s infidelity is not the cause of the emotional neglect, but rather a symptom of unhealthy family relationships that lead to children feeling emotionally neglected. In this post I will explain how a parent’s affair can be part of an overall pattern of emotional neglect in a family.

You deserve to have a life where spending time with your family doesn’t leave you drained for days. The key? Start by honoring your superpower.

I wish I could tell you that there is some magical way that you can have this conversation without fear. There isn’t. If the conversation is important enough (and if you are reading this, it probably is), the only way through is to prepare as best you can, and then take a deep breath and do it.

This post is to help you prepare. Here are 7 ways to start a hard conversation.

The first step to consider after finding out that your mom or dad is cheating.

Sometimes it’s hard to know if your issues stem from growing up with a cheating parent. Here are three reasons that things gets confusing and how to cope.

Four books to help kids of any age dealing with parent infidelity, and the parents, teachers and therapists who support them.

Tips for therapists working with families where one parent has cheated.

Two moms model 4 important parts of communicating with your kids about infidelity.

Writing the memoir has changed me in ways that I am still not great at articulating. I updated my understanding of what happened to my family from the eyes of a child to the lens of an adult, which may explain why I can now think more clearly. I am calmer. I am more myself. 

Like anything else, infidelity carries its own set of beliefs, which begs the question, what is the intergenerational nature of infidelity? There have been few studies done on how infidelity is replicated through generations. This post will summarize these studies. 

One of your parents has cheated on the other one. The secret comes out. You want to help. What do you do? This post describes four stages that couples go through after an affair is discovered, and how children, extended families, and friends can help at each stage.

How to encourage parents to speak with their children about infidelity.

As a parent involved with infidelity, the decision to share the information with your kids is a difficult one. This post addresses the If, Why, When, What and How to speak with your children about an affair.

This post will take a closer look at the dilemmas that children face when they find out about parent infidelity, and then have to decide whether or not to share what they know. Secrets are tricky things, and both keeping family infidelity a secret, and sharing it with others, come with difficult consequences. 

Statistically, children of infidelity are twice as likely to cheat on their partners. This post examines the myths and realities about this statistic and offers solutions for how children of infidelity can minimize their chances of repeating family patterns of infidelity.

A brief summary (in plain English) of Duncombe and Marsden’s 2004 article Affairs and Children, often cited as the foundation of Western scholarly research on the effect of parental infidelity on children.

A myriad of emotions arise for children when they discover their parents’ cheating. Some, like anger or confusion, most people understand.

As every couple’s therapist knows, infidelity presents a serious relationship challenge. Parents struggling with infidelity face the work of managing their adult relationship, while also caring for their kids.

Found out that one of your parents are cheating? Before you decide to speak with them about it, go back and read these posts.

Finding out about a parent affair often throws their kids into a dilemma. To confront the parent about the affair or not?

You have just found out that one or both of your parents is cheating. What do you do?

No matter how old you are, finding out that you have a cheating parent can be jarring.